I don’t think I’ve discussed this too much on my blog but when I was 21, I left everything I was comfortable with and moved to Boston by myself without knowing a soul. It was one of the hardest decisions Ive ever made, but it was exactly what I needed.
Let me give you a little background information…I started my college career at the University of New Hampshire and I absolutely loved it. I was in a two year program to get my associates degree in Community Leadership. It was a fun program with some great students and staff. UNH was a great time, it was big but not too big, had the state school party scene and a lot of Greek life. I really wanted to experience the typical “college life”with a party school that had a campus and community which is exactly what UNH offered. After graduating in 2013 from my two year program, I decided to stay at UNH and take a few classes towards my bachelors degree. As I was doing this, something didn’t click. I got bored of the ciricumlum and kept going to the same parties and walking past the same people. I started to notice that I was growing out of New Hampshire living. I’m really into fashion and there wasn’t much of that there, everyone basically wore the same thing. I craved the intensity and fast pace of a city. I had a lot of friends at UNH and a boyfriend I was with for about two years at this point. It took a lot of courage to be willing to leave everything I was comfortable with and move by myself. I decided to apply to some schools just to explore my options. I got into a few but Suffolk University offered me a great package since I graduated first in my class at UNH. After sleeping on it for a few weeks, I decided to go for it and accepted my offer to get my bachelors in public relations. I’m not a very impulsive person so I was kind of surprising myself by doing this but was really excited about it at the same time. I told my then boyfriend and all my girlfriends what I was doing and moved home at the end of the semester.
This is the part that really gets me, I wasn’t much of a “everything happens for a reason gal” until this happened. My parents live about 45 miles north of Boston so I decided to commute my first semester to get myself acquainted with Boston. During this time, I find out that the person I was dating for almost three years was not only hooking up with his coworker for close to 6 months, but was dating her for that period of time as well. I’m not an oblivious person whatsoever and I never saw this coming in a million years. Just to put the icing on the cake, a lot of my friends knew as well and took their sweet time telling me. I cannot even begin to describe how being home was such a blessing into in disguise during this craziness. I’ve learned a lot from this entire experience and I’m excited to share with you the four major reasons you should move to city by yourself where you don’t know anyone.
1). It’ll be exactly what you need:
If you’re even remotely thinking about moving away, chances are you need a fresh start or new beginning. You might not even realize it at that moment, but your conscious does and you should act on it. Trust me, it’s well worth it.
2). You will meet friends that you’ll have for your entire life:
I cant even begin to describe the amount of people I’ve met in this city. I have met SO MANY genuine human beings who I know will be friends of mine for life. I’ve met locals and people who live in different countries. I’m still amazed at the amount of admirable people I’ve met here and as you can probably guess, I am pretty wary about who I let into my circle.
3). You might be lucky enough to meet a significant other:
I swore that I would never date again, I literally told my family that I will be the cool aunt with no kids or husband. I never, in 10,000 years, thought I would meet someone like Erik. The way we met is slightly comical and he will probably roll his eyes at me writing this BUT, I was having a wine night with my roomies and as a joke, my best friend Yolanda kept nudging me to get a Tinder. I, of course, said there was no shot in hell I was dating anyone ever again. She won and I had the app for less than 24 hours before meeting Erik. He was my third match. We talked for two weeks before I let him take me out (I was so paranoid that I was getting cat fished that I had all of my friends go to the restaurant he was taking me to just to make sure, LOL, we joke about it all the time now) and we’ve been dating ever since. Not only is he a gem and the sexiest piece of pie in the entire world, he has the biggest heart. I never imagined finding someone like him. He has so much patience and is incredibly lovable. I cannot even begin to explain how lucky I feel to be his girlfriend. Moral of the story, I would’ve never met Erik if I didnt make the decision to move and you never know who you’ll meet until you decide to do the same!
4). Lastly, you will learn everything you need to know about yourself:
Seriously. There are so many highs and lows about moving by yourself, especially to a fast paced environment where you don’t know a single person. After I commuted for a semester, I decided to move onto campus and live with random people since I still didn’t really know anyone that well. This meant that my only option was on-campus housing. Now mind you, this was the spring semester of my fourth year of college. All of my friends that I graduated high school with were graduating college in just a few months and I should have been doing the same. Living with randos was honestly the last thing I wanted to do. Why? I don’t know, but it was. To make matters worse, my only offer for on campus housing was to live with 7 other girls in an on-campus apartment. I remember reading that and laughing out loud. I said hellllll nope, no shot. I lived with five girls my entire life and as fun as it was, it was way too much estrogen for one household that I couldn’t even fathom doing it with 7 women. Well, low and behold, I did it (from a lot of push from my parents and a very close family friend) and it was one of the best decisions ever. Me and my roommates had SO MUCH FUN together. Holy cannoli, I cannot even begin to explain. We went out clubbing, drinking, finding new spots to eat and meeting people along the way that we’ve never met before. Most importantly, we laughed our heads off constantly. It was honestly one of the best times in my life. Now that I work full time, I’ve turned into a grandma and don’t do the craziness as much anymore but will never forget those memories and how much they helped me. Overall, I really felt like I learned everything I need to know about myself. I learned how to be street smart, the importance to networking, how to be a hard worker, what makes me happy, what makes me sad, how to adjust to a new lifestyle, what characteristics to look for in friends, and most importantly, how to trust again.
Boston will always have an extremely special place in my heart because of this. It’s where I discovered myself and what I want to do in life, it’s where I made my friends that I’ll have forever and met the love of my life. If there was anything I could recommend to anyone, it would be to give yourself this experience. There’s so much I’ve discovered by doing it that I would’ve never discovered if I hadn’t made this decision and one that I will forever be grateful for. Thank you guys for following along my crazy journey!!